I have a Boston Terrier dog who is 10 years old. She was a runt of the litter, so we are surprised she lived this long. She has good days and not so good days. Some days she acts like she is a pup again, but then others, she sleeps all day and is very cranky. The last visit to the vet, they found a lump on her ear and the vet thinks it might be tumor, but we are waiting to see if it grows. Why do I feel guilty about letting her go. She had a bad back and is pain sometimes, but other days, she is running around the house with our 1 year old son having the time of her life. The doctor said that if it grew that is would be more than likely cancer and I would have to make the decision to either let her go in peace or take her home and let life takes it coarse. I am crying as I type this post. She was my first dog and I love her like a child, but now that i have a child, I understand that she is a dog. I just don’t want to make the wrong decision. Can anyone out there give me some advice. My husband and I can not afford surgery or therapy if it was cancer, so he thinks we should let her go peacefully and not be in pain. I also think that it has something to do with the fact I had bone cancer at 16 (I am now 20), so I guess it is still a little raw. I am cured now and been in remission for 4 years now! Some days, I am alright with letting her go, but others I can’t take the pressure. Please someone, help me feel like I am doign the right thing… i think.

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12 Responses to “Am I doing the right thing with my dog?”
  1. Nicole says:

    If it’s cancer, you’d be doing the right thing if her quality of life would be bad. Ask your vet when you find out whether or not she would be in pain, if so, let her go. It’s better for her as she wont be in pain, and better for you as you wont be watching her die slowly and painfully. I hope she’s ok and it’s just a growth that wont affect her, but only you can make this decision. Good luck!

  2. babie_racer_in says:

    If she starts suffering and not having a quality of life letter her go is the human thing to do. I know you love her and will miss her but remember the good years.

  3. may#12 says:

    do what the vet tells you. if you do have to put her down, she is out of suffering

  4. michelle says:

    Get a second opinion. Diagnosing cancer in dogs takes more than judging whether a lump on the ear grows or not

  5. Mr. V.P. says:

    You said “If it is cancer” This is a difficult time, but everything still could be alright. They can use a little needle, an aspiration, and see if it is cancer with lab tests. It might not be cancer. I’d wait and see. The cancer is a separate issue from the others. You can get around the others but terminal cancer or putting your dog to sleep is final. Make an educated decision.

    Find out if your dog even has terminal cancer and go from there. The test will not cost thousands. It will cost a couple hundred maybe.

  6. Angel says:

    this also recently happened to me i am sorry for you but if you think it is right then here are some words to give you more confidence i think that if your dog is suffering that badly then put him or her to sleep i dont see a point in life if you are suffering badly and personally if i were going to make the decison for you i would do it

  7. robin says:

    I just had to put down my dog/ best friend form childhood down. He was 15 years old and suffered from severe hip arthritis and seizures. It was really hard but we waited until he was howling form the pain and it is not fair to make them go through that. As soon as he was in that kinda pain we had him put down. But I recommend you doing it before she suffers. Good luck.

  8. sherri l says:

    i understand that you are struggling with this and i know that your dog has her ups and downs but pretty soon she will have more down days than up and she will not be able to do the things that she used to be able to do as she once could i say let her go because it will be a lot worse for her if you let nature take its course because she will be in pain all the time and it wouldn’t be fair to either of you to go through that

  9. SMART*** says:

    By coincidence, my wife and I had a Boston, runt of the litter, and lived to be about 11. She developed an enlarged heart and was suffering from seizures. I know how you feel. This little girl was our baby, and to think of letting her go was pure torture. However, it would have been cruel to let her suffer. After much soul searching, we elected to do the right thing and let her drift off to sleep. That was almost 10 years ago, and two Chihuahuas later, and we still miss her. But, her memory is sweet, rather than painful now. Rest assured you will be doing your dog a big favor, by letting her go. I’ll be thinking of you for the next couple of weeks.

  10. DShomebrewfreak says:

    Last month my 10 year old cat had to be put to sleep from a tumor in her ear. Turns out he had cancer. I fell your pain. I say to let her go. You’ll feel better after. It is a horrible feeling,i know. She has probably had the best life she could imagine. she will be in a better place.

  11. Misha says:

    Personal experience: I had a golden retriever who lived for 13 years. Of those 13 years, at least 2 of them he had cancer. He had his ups and downs as well. He was always our puppy and he died our puppy. Surgery couldn’t help him because his cancer was wrapped around important veins that could have killed him. We considered putting him down, but it was hard on all of us. He finally died on his own, peacefully and I think he was better for it…he lived a year longer than any doctor expected because he had a loving family and a wonderful puppy heart. But here’s the deal : no one can make the most important decision in your dog’s life for you, only you can. Each puppy is different, some just want to be put out of their pain, others can live with a little pain if they can only be around for a little while longer. No matter what you choose, you’re going to think that it’s your fault. That you could have done something different. If you put her down, you will always wonder if she would have lived any longer if you hadn’t. If you don’t put her down, you’ll wonder if she’s in too much pain and you should have put him down instead. But don’t. It’s worse that way. No matter what you choose, your puppy will always be yours and he will always love you no matter what you decide. Your decision is the right decision and she will understand, no matter what you decide. It’s hard to watch someone you love, be it person or animal, slip away from you, but you have to let them go at some point. She has been around for longer than you thought, and that will be good enough for you. I know that I can’t really help you decide, but I hope that you read this and feel better with whatever you decide. Good luck and bless you and your puppy.

  12. Razin says:

    i recently went through the same thing we had to put down our mini schnauzer she lived for eight years and then just one sunday mornin she got really sick so we had to put her down she had a blood deaise and she was going to suffer it was the best for her.
    do what you think is right.

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